Graceful Truth — Friendship

Making Your Needs Known

Bill Elliff Friendship

Making Your Needs Known

It's one of the clearest signs of spiritual strength. If we are going to be healthy and promote a vibrant spiritual community, we need to let people know how we're doing. This should be done appropriately and for the right purpose. But many don't ever open up. Sometimes this is because of … FEAR ... (""What if I open up and they find out what's really going on with me, will they still like me? I’m all I’ve got!"") PRIDE ... as we try to give a better impression than is really true FALSE UNDERSTANDING ... that people shouldn’t share...

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The Value of Authentic Friendships

Bill Elliff Friendship

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12) I have a good friend, Bob Bakke, who is a pastor but also a brilliant historian....

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The Priceless Value of Genuine Friends

Bill Elliff Christian Life Friendship

""Faithful are the wounds of a friend..."" ""A man's counsel is sweet to a friend..."" ""Do not forsake your own friend or your father's friend..."" ""Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."" (Proverbs 27:6,9-10,17)   In 1993, after I watched a godly man close to me take a serious moral fall, I realized that if he could fall, so could I. I needed some friends who knew me deeply, would look me in the eye regularly and ask me the hard questions, and who would persevere in holding me accountable.  I called three men who were pastor buddies. To...

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